"Morning darlin! I'm going to give you a trick to make all of your relationships better, are you ready?
Ok so I was with my coach the other day having a session and I was chatting about my relationship with my partner and issues and struggles we have in our relationship, and my coach was like, 'oh because you're seeing him through the eyes of brokeness.'
And I was like, 'what??'
And he's like, 'you're seeing him through the eyes of brokenness.' Meaning, I'm seeing him as fundamentally flawed in some way, because I see myself as fundamentally flawed in some way.
So sometimes we project our own shit onto our partner and people. And so my coach goes, "what if you were to only see him through the eyes of source?"
Source meaning God/Universe/Oneness/Creation...whatever word resonates with you.
But what if I were to only see my partner and my elf thorough the eyes of source? And when I say source I just mean love! What if I were to only see him through the eyes of love?? And not see him through the eyes of flawed or brokenness.
And I was kind of floored by that for a second because I realize how much of my own shit I can project onto Patrick. So I came home and I took his face in my hands and said to him, 'I'm only going to see you through the eyes of source. I'm going to do my fucking best.'
I wanted to share this because it's such a different approach to relationships and love. And you can do this with friends, parents, with people who annoy you the most!
And just for clarification, I DON'T mean that if you're with a narcissist or you have toxic relationships in your life or you have friends that are really not serving you...I'm not saying keep them in your life and just see them through love.
Sure, we can have love and compassion for their inner children that are acting out...but that doesn't mean you have to keep them in your life. It just means, can you see them through the eyes of source and goodness and compassion and love.
I don't want someone to see this and be like, 'well I guess I just have to keep them in my life.' I'm saying see them through the eyes of love. Understand that we're all beautiful and whole already...but if something is toxic then you have 1000% permission to get out of it.
I'm saying if you have good people in your life, you're with a good partner, you want to keep them in your life AND they annoy the shit out of you...can you see them through the eyes of love?